Did I Just Cum or Pee?
4 Ways to figure out if your climax produced urine or female ejaculate
Female cum is extremely under-researched and misunderstood. One day, I was masturbating and during the climax it felt like a pipe full of water inside my vagina had bursted. Some type of fluid was rushing out and I wasn’t sure what it was. Fearful I was going to urinate and wet my entire bed, I contracted my pelvic floor extremely hard to prevent any more fluid from exiting. “I really should have put down a towel or something” I thought to myself. How terrible that I had to stop myself from having the orgasm of a lifetime. I was also really damn proud that I was able to bring myself to that kind of orgasm. But… was that fluid urine or female ejaculte?
Unfortunately there is just not a lot of research on this topic, and just not a lot of research on women’s health in general (go figure). There are only a few studies on this particular topic, and the concluded evidence is still up for debate. Here are 4 tips that might help determine if you are producing urine or ejaculate during intercourse and climax:
Was there vaginal penetration? - It has been discovered that there are two small glands near the opening of the vagina and below the urethra called the skene’s glands. These glands help with urethral and vaginal lubrication. These glands can produce fluid during intercourse, especially at climax, leading to what is known as ‘squirting’ or ‘female ejaculate.’ These glands are stimulated with penetration at the vaginal opening about 2 inches deep. If there is solely external stimulation and no vaginal stimulation at all, it is less likely there will be ejaculation. Vagic trick: have your partner or yourself insert 2 fingers, separated about 0.5 cm apart. The separation will help avoid stimulating the urethra which can cause irritation or urinary urgency. The partner will be able to feel a little ledge. They can place the tips of their fingers on this little ledge and just leave them there with gentle pressure. Add clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, other hand, or orally… and BOOM. Let the floodgates open and prepare for a fountain of glorious, vagical ejaculation. You may want to lay down a towel before, just in case.
What’s it look like? So let’s say after masturbation or intercourse there was some fluid. What does it look like? Can you tell if it was clear or yellow? Was there a lot or a little? If you urinated before intercourse and the fluid is clear, it is pretty safe to say it is probably ejaculate. If the liquid seems to have a yellow-ish tint, it is probably urine.
What’s it smell like? Just do it. Just smell it. It’s okay. I give you permission. Does it smell like urine? Does it smell like nothing? Ejaculate doesn’t have much of a distinct smell, but urine tends to.
How's your urine control when you’re not climaxing? If you are having urinary control issues throughout the day or night time, whether that is urgency, leakage on the way to the restroom, frequency (more than 1x every 3-4 hours), leakage with sneezing/coughing/laughing/jumping, etc. your lack of urinary control may be showing up in the bedroom as well.
So you may be wondering, well Laura was it urine or ejaculate last night?! Well I smelled it and i just couldn’t really tell still. The liquid was clear. A few moments later I had to really urinate and while on the toilet I looked at my bright yellow pee which reeked of asparagus because that is what I had for dinner. The fluid on the bed did not smell like asparagus. I’ll let you cum to your own conclusion;)
x Dr. Laura