6 Sex Tips From the Vagician
Here are some tips to enhance your sex life and give you the orgasm you so deserve!
“Remember, there is no shame in this game!”
Set the mood. Sex for women is a lot more pyscho somatic than it is for men. So figure out what it is that you like and try to implement it when you are being intimate with a partner (or with yourself!) Grab a pen and your journal and write down what turns you on. Is it relaxing music? Is it dark lighting? Is it wearing your sexiest lingerie? Is it being in a private setting or the opposite? Go wild with your imagination and remember we don’t sex shame around here so write whatever it is you desire.
Lubrication will be your best friend. I highly recommend water based lubricant such as @slipperystuff . Water based lubricant is condom friendly and usually the safest lubricant. It doesn’t matter how old, how young, how wet, or how dry, use the lubrication girl!
If you have pain with intercourse, see your pelvic floor therapist and work through some specific relaxation techniques that can help your pelvic floor muscles release during intercourse and decrease pain.
If you have a lack of sensation during intercourse, practice doing kegels throughout your day and also during intercourse. This will bulk up your pelvic floor muscles and increase sensitivity. A stronger pelvic floor will also increase the intensity of your orgasms… and who doesn’t want a better orgasm?
The clitoris is the structure of the vulva that has the most sensitivity; it has more than 8,000 nerve endings! Most women climax with clitoris stimulation. The vaginal canal just doesn’t have a lot of nerve endings. So, do not be alarmed if you have a hard time reaching climax with penetration alone, or if you even don’t really enjoy penetration because most women are in that same boat! A great way to achieve pleasure for both partners is clitoral stimulation with simultaneous vaginal penetration.
Get to know yourself! Pick a night this week where you can be by yourself. Create your most sexiest playlist, pick out your favorite panties and bra/lingerie, light some candles, dim the lights, grab your toy/vibrator and some lubrication, and touch yourself. Remember there is no shame in this game! We have got to erase the social taboo that women are not allowed to masturbate; how else are we going to figure out what we like? Women can and should masterbate. We deserve great sex too! So figure out what feels good to you. Remind yourself how beautiful you are and how much you deserve to feel fantastically orgasmic!
Xx
The Vagician